We all must have always heard that parenting is a two-person job and that parenting has no gender. However, most books on preparing for parenthood include a substantial section on newborn care. Where self-care for new moms is thoroughly addressed, including topics such as mood swings, postpartum depression, anxiety, etc. In the midst of all of this, new fathers are barely mentioned. As a result, some new fathers may find themselves unprepared for the responsibilities of fatherhood.
In today’s times, fathers are as involved in raising children as mothers are. Just like mothers take a maternity break, many fathers opt to avail themselves of their paternity leave, be of equal participation, and help raise their children in the initial tough months. This article by Care for Child will help you identify the challenges expectant fathers face. Suppose you are an expecting mother, a family member in a pregnant household, or a person who has a friend who is about to become a father. In that case, this article will help you understand their side better and support them better. Keep reading!
1. Adapting to changes
The biggest challenge that comes along with a new member arriving in the family is the change in the lifestyle, the daily routine, and the budgeting it will bring along, and adapting to those recent changes. This fact stands true for both the expecting mother and the expecting father. With the thrill of experiencing parenthood comes endless changes you must make to your lifestyle and way of thinking once you become a parent. New mothers must learn to balance nursing responsibilities and nurturing their babies with self-care. New fathers must learn when and how to lend a helping hand. It takes time for both to adjust to the new situation; however, most parents eventually learn to adapt to the new situation.
2. Deprivation of sleep
It is challenging to care for an infant. Comforting the baby, putting them to sleep, feeding them on time, changing the diapers, and so on are all tasks that must be completed regardless of the time of day or night. Along with this, you may be required to handle specific household responsibilities. As a result, you might feel tired and sleep-deprived. So, get all the assistance you can. Also, take it one day at a time, and do not stress about the house being out of order.
If you are a new parent and dealing with sleep deprivation, here are two quick tips that will help you
- Try to leave everything aside and nap when your baby is taking a nap. Even if this nap is just for 20 – 30 minutes, jump on the opportunity, take a quick nap, and let your mind & body rest.
- Ask for all the possible help in this world. Ask both sides of family members to pitch in to take care of the child while you can catch up on sleep, complete the chores and shopping, etc. Ask your friends to babysit while you both can spend a bit of time together with each other and bond not just as parents but as a couple as well.
3. Less active social life
Becoming a new parent is an exciting and rewarding experience but can also be challenging and overwhelming. One of the most significant changes that new parents face is the impact on their social life. Couples who were once accustomed to an active social life may struggle to find time for themselves, let alone for socializing with friends or attending events.
The arrival of a new baby means that parents must prioritize their child’s needs above all else. This may mean sacrificing social activities in the short term to focus on the baby’s health and well-being. While missing out on social events or cutting conversations short due to a crying baby can be frustrating, it is important to remember that this is a temporary phase in life.
As your child grows and becomes more independent, you will have more opportunities to socialize and enjoy the activities you once did. In the meantime, creating a stable and nurturing environment for your child is essential. This also means prioritizing sleep, nutrition, and regular check-ups with your paediatrician.
While it is natural to miss your pre-baby social life, it is essential to embrace this new phase of life and recognize that it will not last forever. With patience and perseverance, you can create a healthy and happy environment for your child while still finding ways to enjoy your new role as a parent.
4. Figuring out what you need
It is easy to become overwhelmed by the overwhelming task of getting ready for a new baby and getting swept up in the excitement of purchasing every adorable and trendy baby item. However, when stocking up on necessities before the birth of their child, new parents should prioritize functionality and practicality more. Essentials like diapers, wipes, onesies, a secure car seat, and a high-quality stroller are must-have items. These supplies are necessary for the baby’s safety and comfort and will be used daily. Avoid or buy sparingly any accessories for the nursery or other items that may look cool or trendy but will not be used frequently, like specialized baby gadgets. A product’s durability and long-term usefulness should also be considered. Most new dads find it difficult to decide which baby is a necessity, so we’ve listed a few items that you should stock up on before your baby arrives: crib, feeding bottles, cloth diapers, dry feel nursing pads, feeding bottles, and flow lock period pads.
5. Contrary advice
Almost every close relative feels responsible for the well-being of a new baby and, as a result, is eager to offer advice. This can sometimes put you in a difficult situation, especially when two members provide contradictory advice. During such times, remember that it is always a good idea to consult your child’s paediatrician before proceeding.
Being a parent is a life-changing experience. Prepare yourself for a new routine and changes in your relationships. Remember that being supportive of one another is just as important. Furthermore, this will be beneficial to your growing baby.